Don't get divorced if at all possible. If there is any chance to save your marriage take it. Your about to head into one of the toughest journeys of your life. If you have children then the pain and damage may be irreparable. Forget the fact that you will probably spend all your money on lawyers or that you'll suffer anxiety on a daily basis for the entire time your fighting it out. And once you bring the "system" into your family their there for good and many of your decision making rights for you and your children are gone.
Also remember no matter what anyone around you is saying you can stop the process at any time. Take a break and rethink what your doing.
Experts & Professionals Opinions
Psychologists, economists and sociologists report that divorce is far more harmful than we used to think. It makes everyone poorer financially, socially and spiritually, especially women and children. Children of divorce are twice as likely to be abused and to become criminals and teen moms, even if they have stepparents. And divorce doesn't end fighting in front of the children, in most cases, it escalates it.
There's always a second chance!
You may be thinking there's no way you can save your marriage but you may be wrong. I have seen couples that have had tremendous problems, cheating, drugs, alcohol, abuse, etc.. that have been able to pull together, get help and save their marriage. I am not advocating you stay in a relationship where your life is in danger or your children are being abused. Definitely you need to leave a situation like that. But if things haven't gotten that out of control then do your children a favor and try to work it out.
Even if you don't have children take a breather and rethink things.
Sometimes we think or feel like were unhappy or need to "grow". Many times just waiting out that "rough" spot is the best answer. I know several couples that hit rough spots and stuck together even though they weren't happy. After some time (and even some therapy) they reconnected and many years later they are still happy and glad they didn't split.
It may not work and you may need to divorce but really be sure before you throw it away. You made the commitment you should at least honor that by really trying.
